Body Language Speaks Louder Than Words…What Are You Telling Your Date?
Not many people know how they come across to others. We all walk through life unaware of the way that we may be presenting ourselves. Why? Because we can’t see ourselves from the perspective of others. Many things that we tell those around us have nothing to do with the words that come from our mouths. If you are headed out on a date with a guy for the first time, you may want to think long and hard about what your body language is telling him. Giving mixed signals is easy to do if you aren’t careful. If you are saying one thing, but your body is saying another, you may leave him dumbfounded and not sure about what his next move should be.
What are your movements conveying?
Guys are simple creatures. They aren’t big into reading between the lines. What they hear, or what you are saying to them with your actions, are what they go with. The flip of your hair may just be a habit, but what it may be saying to him is that you are flirting and that you like him whether you do or not. You don’t have to analyze every move you make, that would make the date much less fun and much more stressful. Just make sure that if you are doing something you mean to. Habits are alright, but if they are conveying the wrong message to your date, you could have a problem on your hands.
Hands off or hands on?
If you are a touchy freely type of person, it can be misunderstood. Men respond to touch in different ways. If you are speaking to him and reach out to him, or touch him, that is telling him that you are interested in getting closer. You may just be someone who touches others when you want to be heard, but what he is hearing is that he is in. He may then assume that the night is going to go in a physical direction. Before you put your hand on his knee, or touch his shoulder, make sure that is what you want to do and you won’t be misunderstood.
It says disinterested
If you are looking around the room continually or checking you phone, you are telling him you aren’t interested. Unless you are paying attention to him undivided you are saying to him that you don’t care what he has to say. Answering your cell phone, or looking at other guys, sends him a signal that he isn’t important enough to you to command your attention. Unless you don’t want to see him again, put down the cell phone and focus.
Keep your hands off your face…or on?
Touching your face frequently, especially your lips, signals to him that you would like his lips on yours. Even if you had dry lips, the more that you draw attention to them, the more he will be thinking you want him to kiss you. If you want him to get close, touching your face frequently will send him the message that you would like to get up close and personal.
Eye contact shares intimacy
Holding eye contact tells him that you are being honest and open. If you hide your eyes, or refuse to look into his, you are telling him that you aren’t interested in being intimate. A man wants to know that you are into him, and holding eye contact with him tells him that you are serious and that you are listening with intention. It also says that you are more open to a relationship, and not holding back with your true personality.
Nothing shows pleasure more than a smile
A smile, or a laugh tells him that you are pleased with being with him. Even if you are having a good time, if you never smile, he will remember that you weren’t happy or engaged with him. A smile tells a guy that he is making you happy. It tells him that his words are making you feel good. That is what a guy wants to see, and will make it more likely that he will call and want to go out with you again. If he didn’t think you were having fun, it will be near impossible for him to call. Why would he want to go out with someone who didn’t enjoy the first date with him?
If you want him to think that you are into him it is important to not fidget constantly. Have you ever tried to have a conversation with an octopus? That is how it feels if you aren’t sitting still or fidgeting in your seat. Do what you have to, to be calm and engaged. Sit on your hands, force yourself to sit still, just stop with all the movement. Focus so he can focus on you.