Falling back in love with your partner or getting them to fall back in love with you seems like a mammoth task, but really, it is pretty simple. You just have to go back to basics and figure out what it is that makes your partner tick, or if you are trying to fall back in love with your partner, what you like to see in them.Accept that this isn’t going to be cakewalk and that you’ll really need to try to change your attitude to getting your love back for someone else.You obviously are still interested in being with your partner, else you would have split up with them and wouldn’t be looking at articles like this. So, what do you do?Find out the things you like about your partner and then try and nudge them in the right direction to doing more of that. If you like a partner you can play sports with and who look great in a pair of shorts, get them to come to the gym with you and train with. Together, you can get fitter and stronger and all the endorphins from exercising will make you want to spend more time with your partner doing other things.Perhaps your partner used to be really funny and has got a little more serious over the years. Try to go with them to an improve or stand up night and start making them laugh again.The key to any relationship is to make sure you are communicating with them in a way that they understand and don’t feel threatened by. If you want to fall back in love with them, ask them why they are acting how they are and if there is any way you can help them with their troubles. People often change how they act over time as a result of their environment.If they feel scared or have low self esteem, they will act less fun and more withdrawn, especially if you are the reason that they have either of these things. Try encouraging them a little more and not offending or belittling them as this can have serious knock on effects over time. When you need them to fall back in love with you, you can ask them what it is that you are doing wrong and how you might go about fixing it, as long as you have both acknowledged the problem and are willing to help each other sort it out. It’s a difficult thing to do and won’t happen overnight, but relationships are hard work and if you are look for a one night fix to everything, perhaps you shouldn’t be in a relationship yet.
Communication Is Key
Whilst I say this quite a bit, there is a real reason why I do this. Unless you and your partner are telepathic and understand each other so well you don’t need to talk to each other, there’s no way that you can possibly understand what is going on in their mind. Your model of their personality is probably flawed and this means that whilst you might think you know what you need to do to get them to love you again, you could be missing out on the real issue at hand.Some people just don’t do well with confrontation, so make sure the conversation is low key and that your partner has time to prepare what they want to say over the course of the conversation. It is ok to take a pen and paper as this shows you are paying lots of attention and it means you can scribble down ideas you have of ways to fix the problems that will probably be raised whilst you are talking to each other.If necessary, do this in a public pace where you are both comfortable, especially if you have rowdy housemates or something else distracting at home.Finding out the things that you need to temper in your personality can be quite difficult to deal with, especially if someone labels you with something that you don’t think you class as. A lot of people will hear from others that they are arrogant or angry a lot of the time and think they are personally very modest and calm. Perceptions vary and when you are in a relationship you need to be able to have the empathy to show that you understand you other halves perceptions on the relationship. Otherwise, why are you together if you don’t care about what they think and how they feel?Keep open lines of communication and act on your problems whilst keeping anything that is good in the relationship and in no time at all you will get your love back in to your life.