Don’t know where you should start to look to find a partner? Having no luck going out to clubs or always finding the wrong type of person on your search? Many people are clueless when it comes to actually finding a great partner to spend the rest of their lives with and in fairness,it isn’t the easiest thing in the world to do. So, how can you actually find a decent partner?Meet more people. If only it was that easy!
The Law Of Averages
The law of averages is applicable in this case, which is basically saying, the more people you meet, the more likely you are to actually find the person who you want to meet. The more people you talk to and ask about, the more people that you’ll be able to meet and even if the person you meet today isn’t your perfect date, they might know the person that will be.Meeting more people can only help so much though, which means if you aren’t happy with the general people you meet, you could think about specializing your search. If you are using Internet dating to find your date, you could try searching using the filters available on most online dating services. This will allow you to find people that are more likely to meet your standards and for example, will exclude everyone who likes to smoke a lot. There are many ways you can use these types of filters and experimenting with them will lead to different results from a search engine.This also applies to dating in real life though; don’t be fooled in to thinking that it is only for online dating. You can find people you particularly like by going to places that your type of person might be found. If you like artists or musicians, go to gig venues, galleries and talk to people around there. This works for pretty much most of the people you can think of!Even if you don’t find someone special, you’ll be having a lot more fun than if you were just aimlessly searching for love on the Internet. Being out and about is good for you and you never know who you might meet.
Fight Back Against Awkwardness!
A lot of people who are reading this just won’t go out there and put themselves at the mercy of the world. This is a mistake, but it is perfectly understandable. To make sure you don’t feel awkward when you are out and about, there are many books on social interaction and how to cope with talking to new people but my favorite tactic is to prepare some open ended and interesting questions to ask people that you meet. Try making sure that they are novel and interesting, without making them creepy questions or something that doesn’t lead on to more conversation. The whole point of the questions is to get you both in to a conversation without relying on the age old ‘What do you do?’. Many people hate this question as it makes it seem like someone is only as interesting as their job, which is foolish and short sited but many people end up panicking and asking the first thing that comes to their head.Finding someone you actually want to be with is a lot easier when you are putting yourself in situations where you would likely to meet new people. Much the same as people that seem to be most lucky put themselves in the right places to be ‘lucky’ you are thousands of times more likely to meet the right person if you are out in situations where you can meet others.When you do meet someone new, don’t worry if they don’t seem like the perfect fit. Whilst you are looking for dates, there’s no real reason why you can’t use any social situation as some kind of professional network building opportunity and make some new friends. If you really can’t think of anything or know where to go to meet people, try getting your friends to set you up on a blind date. Whilst you might go on some truly terrible dates, you might be surprised to see who your friends set you up with. Quite a few great dates have came from this kind of blind date business and even if the date is terrible, at least you come out with a story to tell!The last point I want to talk about is that if you are going around looking for the ‘perfect’ person, you’ll probably walk away unsatisfied. There isn’t really a perfect person out there and adjusting your expectations may well be the best thing you can do for your love life and the rest of your life.