You thought that the strip club would work, it didn’t. You thought that burning her pictures would help, it didn’t. You even thought that sleeping with another chick would dull the pain, it didn’t. If you are lost on how to forget about the girl that just walked out your life, the answer is that it isn’t going to be easy. There is no quick fix for breaks of the heart. Not only will it take time to move on and get past it, it is going to take healing. There are going to be some things that will aid in the healing, and others that will only exasperate the hurt. There are some basic do’s and don’ts that will help you to get past your break up and find a way to carry on.
Don’t drink yourself silly
Most guys have a tendency to drink their problems away. No friend is better than a little Jack and Jim, but in the morning, they are harder to shake than a bad one night stand. Alcohol seems like a good idea at the time, and may even give you a little release from all the bad feelings. However, when the buzz wears off and you wake up with a headache, you will have a heightened sense of loss. Drinking will only prolong the missing and make it that much greater to deal with. Going out and having a couple of drinks may be good to take the edge off, but it should not be something that you use to completely ditch out of life all together.
Don’t beg or be pathetic
She left you. She most likely isn’t coming back. Girls aren’t like guys, once they are done, they are done, and no amount of apologies or begging can bring back those loving feelings. The very worst thing you can do is to beg her or snivel about it. Nothing is more unattractive than a guy who begs or acts weak. If you did something wrong to cause the breakup, it is alright to admit fault and apologize, but only once. If she is going to take you back, it isn’t going to be because you are at her feet whining and pleading. Save the boohooing for when you are at home alone.
Don’t jump into bed with someone else
If you think that finding another hot chick is going to get you past the love of your life, you are wrong. Sure it will feel good, but only for as long as the sex lasts. When you wake up next to her and she isn’t what you really want, all you are going to feel is greater loss. Sex is not a bad thing, but don’t do it for the wrong reasons. Revenge sex, or denial sex, will only make you wake feeling empty and sad. Do try to find a girl to make you laugh and forget about your ex for a while, don’t try to find some brainless blond to make you feel good physically. It won’t last long enough to be worth it.
Do hit the gym
Keeping yourself busy is a great idea. Instead of sitting your ass down on the couch and feeling sorry for yourself, hit the gym. Not only will you find other people to pull you from your misery, you will actually do something that may make you feel good about yourself. If you find that you have a lot of anger, working out is a great way to release some of it. Lift some weights and get all that energy out, then go home and sit on the couch. For goodness sake, do something, otherwise you will just fall into a hole.
Do try to move on
Even if you want her back and there is still a chance that she wants the same from you, don’t just sit around waiting. There are reasons why you two broke up. Sometimes fate has something different in mind for you. If you stick your head in the sand and drown out the rest of the world, you could miss meeting “the one”. If you love her and it was meant to be, it will all work out the way that you want. Dreaming about it all day long, or wallowing about it, isn’t going to change what is going on. It is only going to make you a miserable person.
Don’t be a Negative Ned
Just because you are going through a hard time doesn’t mean that you should hold everyone else captive to it. If you are walking into a room and everyone else is vacating, it is time to stop crying in your boots. Instead of sitting in misery, strap those boots on and start moving forward.