You can’t get too far in the dating world without being broken up with. It’s just a matter of time before a breakup happens, whether or not you initiated it.Breakups are usually accompanied by a lot of negative feelings and it’s important to address these head on and figure out why you feel sad. Perhaps it is the fear, you don’t think you will find someone quite as good as the person you just had or maybe it’s simply rejection. Whilst having some time to analyze and figure out how you might be able to make your next relationship go a little smoother, you should also try and find something fun and inspiring to do.This means getting out of bed and stopping the sad films and music you’ve been watching and whipping yourself back in to shape. You probably won’t feel like doing any of these things but force yourself to. You will feel better about yourself and your breakup. Distracting yourself from your problems is a good way to get out of your head and truly focus on something. If there is an activity that you already do that forces you to stop thinking and simply do the activity, this would be a great way to start.
Keep In Touch
People often lose contact with some of their friends and family after a breakup. You feel like it’s best if you are alone so that you are not a burden on other people. Your friends and family should be there for you whenever you need them and especially in times of emotional pain. By keeping in touch with your friends and family you might be able to stay positive and realize that not all personal relationships are bad.
Hit The Gym
It’s been proven by science that exercising heavily produces endorphins which make you happier and can also distress you. This is just one reason why you should be going to the gym but going to extra lengths in the gym will pay you back time and time again. If your weightlifting has hit a plateau, go break through to the other side. Having concrete and realistic goals in the gym and achieving them will restore your self confidence. Picking up new skills at the gym will also help your sense of achievement. Take a spinning class or perhaps learn a martial art. The companionship and close ties of martial arts would do well to mend your broken heart.
Tick something of your to do list
Couples tend to spend rather a large portion of their time together. This means that a lot of solo activities tend to get left by the wayside. Most people have something they would like to be able to do like learning how to play an instrument or even something as mad as going skydiving. Now is the time to start these kinds of bucket list items. Realizing your sense of achievement and happiness isn’t tied to someone else is highly liberating and you may realize how much of your time was spent doing things you didn’t particularly want to do. Now you have all this free time, try to use it wisely instead of drinking yourself into a stupor and playing video games. Whilst that is fun occasionally, it’s hardly a life plan.There are hundreds off things you could be doing with the time you have now gained. Learn a new language, go on a holiday or even start training for a marathon!
Start A Journal
Many great people throughout the years wrote a journal. What they wrote in the journal didn’t particularly matter; it’s the fact they wrote in it that did. Writing can clear your brain and causes you to reflect on what is happening in your life without anything to distract you from the task at hand. Writing down your feeling and why you think you feel them can be extremely therapeutic and useful. The benefit of a journal is that next time you are feeling down or after a different break up, you can look back to the past to see what feelings you felt then and realize that your life didn’t end last time. Writing a journal is also great to remember all the good things in your life and will be something that you will treasure as you age.
When you don’t feel great, you will stop caring so much about tidying up your environment and yourself. Breakups can cause people to binge drink and eat poorly, making them have awful skin and feel even worse. This vicious cycle continues until a few weeks or months have past and suddenly there is sunshine. By having the willpower to keep up any good habits you are already in, you get to keep those benefits even whilst you feel bad. Cleaning up your environment, home or work has been shown to help mental cognition and increase happiness. Go and find yourself a decent barber or hairdresser and let them do their magic. Buying yourself a new dress or suit can make the world of difference and also gives you an excuse to find events where you can wear it!Definitely throw away anything that your partner left in your house or bought for you unless you are particularly fond of the item. The act of throwing things away feels great and it can help remove any potential memory triggers from causing you pain in the future.
Let Your Partner Do What They Do
This one might seem weird, yet every day people end up looking up what they are doing over Facebook or asking their mutual friends how your other half is getting on. We don’t quite understand the point in this as if you hear that they are doing fantastic without you, it just makes you feel worse. If they are not getting along too well with you, it can make you feel guiltier if you were the one to initiate the breakup.Let your partner live on their life without you, it doesn’t matter what they are up to. Letting go and seeing how things play out is better for your mental health and means it’s one less thing you have to think about. Try to avoid meeting your ex or talking to them, especially if you are just asking for information about them to see how you are comparing to them. Life isn’t a competition and nobody wins in a breakup. Maybe one day in the future you might want to give them a call, but right now you should be focusing on yourself and figuring out how you can make yourself feel great instead.Keeping happy after a breakup doesn’t have to be an impossible task. Make sure you surround yourself with people who care about you and want you to be happy. Try to avoid any people that might remind you of your ex or those who tend to put a damper on the spirits of those around you. Remember, keep your chin up and try to see the upside of it all. Whilst you have lost someone, the world is full of great things that you are yet to experience.