How to Wow On a First Date: Confidence Tips for a New, Sexy You
In this article we’ll be giving you tips on how to boost your confidence and go out on a date as the real beautiful and sexy woman you are inside! Our five tips will work wonders for your dating life. Having the courage to get out there in the dating scene is hard enough as it is, but showing you are a strong and confident woman with a positive attitude to life is really helpful.
1: Dress To Impress
One way to boost your confidence is to make sure you look your best. We don’t mean dressing trashy or slutty, or wearing something you feel uncomfortable in. We’re talking about putting on your best dress and some nice accessories, wearing a little bit of makeup and breaking out that perfume you got for Christmas last year and didn’t take out of the box yet. If you know inside that you’ve made an effort, you will automatically feel sexier and more confident. Plus, you’ll look amazing, which is a great thing by itself. Your date will be wowed the instant you step through the door, and the feeling of pride in yourself that you’ll get from knowing you look great will shine through. You’ll be glowing all evening, and that little boost of confidence will set you at ease and help the conversation flow at the start of the date too.
2. Don’t do anything silly.
We know, it’s a strange-sounding rule, but let us explain. Don’t feel like you have to prove anything to your date, especially the first time you go out together. Be yourself, don’t try to be something you’re not, and try to keep things calm and cool. While it might be impressive that you can balance a full glass of water on your cleavage or do a handstand or do a great impression of a TV character, and while being fun enough to show these things off IS confident and IS sexy in its own right, it’s far too easy for things to go wrong at an early stage with a new date. Save party tricks, jokes and terrible anecdotes for your friends or for when you and your date know each other better. Embarrassing isn’t sexy, injured isn’t sexy, and accidentally offending someone with a bad joke is definitely not sexy.
3. Have something to say.
Stumbling over basic conversation is not sexy, and it shows a lack of confidence. We don’t mean plan for it like it was an interview, but you really can’t go on a date having not thought at all about what you and your date might talk about. Here’s one great tip: Read the day’s newspaper, maybe while you take your pre-date bath (or if you shower – flick through it while you dry your hair?) You will then be armed with at least a passing knowledge of some important current events, if you didn’t have any beforehand. It’s OK to not follow politics, or to not watch the World News every night, but if you’re going out with someone for an evening of talking, you need to do this little bit of preparation. There’s not much worse than being asked what you think about some world-changing news, and having to respond with “Erm, I didn’t actually know that had happened.” It’s fine to not be able to talk about opera or golf or some other hobby or interest that he has and you don’t, but a glaring lack of knowledge on the really important stuff will make you feel awkward and this can knock your confidence for the rest of the date. You should also have some idea of what you’ll tell him about yourself when asked. Everyone says “So, tell me about yourself?” on a first date, usually when there’s nothing else to fill the conversation with. “Errrrr…” is not an acceptable answer here. You trained as a teacher, you once skydived, you really like hamsters and your sister is a stand-up comedian. Anything but “Errrr….” Everyone has something interesting, some trivia or little facts about themselves that they can talk about, so pick a couple of them and make a plan. When people talk about something they have real enthusiasm for, they really shine. Their confidence is natural at this stage, because they’re in their comfort zone. Do your planning so that you can get into that comfort zone quickly and easily. Then, once you’ve said a little bit about yourself, don’t forget to ask them the same question. Do not let yourself get too self-absorbed or talk for an hour non-stop at this stage. Confidence is sexy. Overconfidence and not letting your date get a word in edge ways is a big turn-off.
4. Pay attention.
Your date will find you sexy and enjoyable to be around, if you can put them at ease and make HIM feel sexy and confident. He’s a person too, with his own dating anxieties and worries. So, pay attention. You are there on a date with him, because you like him and you find him interesting. Not only is it extremely rude to stare off into space while he’s talking, it will make him nervous that you aren’t really into him. Listen to him when he speaks, prompt him for more information or ask him questions or respond with a relevant anecdote of your own – as long as you make him feel valued and wanted, he will think the same of you. Everyone likes to feel flattered and liked, and the easiest way to give that impression on a first date is to keep your attention on him. We don’t mean hang on his every word or lean right into him or never break eye contact. But you should be sure that he is the focus of your evening if you want yourself to be the focus of his! If you can keep each other’s interest and confidence levels up together like this, you’re already starting to be a great team.
5. And finally – Practice!
This is a simple one to finish with. Practice! If you’re confident in your day to day life, if you’re calm and collected and in control of the things you do, at work or at home, that confidence will soon spill over into other areas of life. The best way to be confident on a date is to be confident all the time, naturally, without having to try! So give yourself the credit you deserve for the things you have accomplished, learn to accept the things you can’t influence, and take control of everyday situations that you can have a positive effect on. Success in small areas will spur you on to greater successes in all things. Be upbeat about yourself, be positive and keep looking on the bright side. This kind of enthusiasm for life and general laid-back and open nature will shine through into your dating life and bring the right kind of guy into your world.So, with a bit of luck, a bit of preparation and some self-belief, you’ll be well on your way to being a confident, sexy date!