You want him back but you haven’t the faintest idea of how to get him back. You know that you want him and only him, yet you can’t think of how you can appeal to his senses to make him get back with you. That’s ok, because it is pretty simple to get most people back in to a relationship, assuming the break up wasn’t a massive screaming match and heavy objects being thrown all over the place.Assuming you had a fairly okay break up, you’ll be likely to get your ex back by doing a few simple, yet hard things.Find out why he broke up with you. Maybe there was the allure of someone else in his life or he is going through a rough emotional patch. A lot of break ups that are instigated by men are because of external factors that they don’t talk about, like family or job pressures. When they cut loose form those they know, it makes it easier for them to focus on the problem at hand and make sure that they don’t make anyone else sad etc.
If this is the case, you need to find out how their problems are affecting their life and communicate with them. Calling them up and asking to meet up in a coffee shop or something might well be the first thing you want to do, if you are not sure why he broke up with you. Whilst most men don’t like to admit it, having someone to talk to and confide in, use as a sounding board for ideas and such is something that they want and probably don’t have in their life. By breaking up with you, in their mind, they are keeping you out of the hard bits of life and making life easier for you… Or so they think.Communication is important, even if this isn’t the reason for the break up. Good communication between you and your ex will allow you to spot all of the problems in the relationship so you can start to work on them and figure out what has to change so you two can get back together.This is the point where you start to decide whether you really want your ex back. Often, people get in to the challenge of getting their exes back and will work hard to make it happen, without paying heed to what it means for the rest of their life. To put this in to perspective, getting back to a relationship with your ex whilst you are still unhappy with them is just going to make your break up with them again, meaning you’ve wasted time, money and effort, just to make everyone feel bad again.
Work together with your ex on your problems. It is ok if you don’t start dating right away. Working on your jealousy and anger or their personality problems will strengthen your bond and make it so when you start another relationship you are closer than you ever were in the first one. Keeping the communication lines open and non judgmental means you’ll be much more likely to know when something is going wrong, before it has the knock on effect in the relationship. Open communication means you can work on things before they become problems. Whilst this is easy to say and read, it is much more difficult to put in to practice in real life. Penciling in a time for you to try and communicate effectively with your partner will go a long way to making sure you have a trusted time to talk about stuff. You could take turns to speak and both mention problems that you have and the other person might be able to start working on fixing them.Once you start communicating openly, you are opening up and letting the other person in to you. This is what makes good relationships great and where love starts to happen properly.If your ex doesn’t want you back, sometimes there isn’t much you can do about it. Some say that improving yourself and going to the gym, getting more attractive and so on will get them back in your arms, but you never really know until you try. Of course, people should be trying to better themselves anyway, so applying it to the situation of getting an ex back is passé.Improving yourself and learning how to communicate and be empathic with your partner is the best way to get them back, rather than having to rely on psychological tricks and using guilt on them so that you can get them back in your life. Give them a call and ask to meet them, you might regret it if you don’t try today. Good luck!