Is It OK To Have Sex On The First Date?

People are dating more and more and this means that this question comes up more and more. Guys are often confused as to whether they should push for sex on the first date or not, because they are not sure of what the correct protocol is. Whilst sex on the first date isn’t as much as a big deal as it used to be, there are still a lot of people who think that sex is a thing that should be worked towards on the course of a happy, healthy relationship. There’s nothing wrong with this view and if this has served you well so far in your adventures, keep at it.Society doesn’t particularly care what you are doing in the bedroom and having sex on the first date happens a lot nowadays, so it isn’t really anything to worry about. If you were to ask your friends, you’d see that a lot of them would say that it is a good idea. Personally, I think that it is better if you wait for a few dates before having sex because this makes the whole thing a lot more fun.

Sex on a first date is fine, but don’t you think that it would be better if you waited? When you are not pushing for sex on a first date, you and your new date can get much closer and get to know each other a lot better, therefore making the sex better because you are both less anxious about the whole thing. This can also help if you are nervous about your sexual ability and you and your date won’t feel quite as pressured.By not having the idea of sex on a first date as the primary goal of the date you’ll be able to enjoy the rest of the date a lot more, enjoy their company more and there’s always the chance that you hit it off so well you do have sex anyway. My favourite part of dates and relationships are the points leading up to sex and other big relationship milestones and by waiting a few dates until you have sex, you can really up the anticipation, making things much more interesting for everyone involved. Sex is always better with people you have a proper bond with and by having sex on the first date; you probably don’t have that great a bond with them yet. However, if you did hit it off well on the first date or you already know the person that you are dating, it might well be worth it. The more sex you have with the same person, the better it gets as you learn what each other like and you can make it more interesting for one another by trying stuff you wouldn’t usually.

Benefits Of Waiting

Delayed gratification shows a great deal about yourself as a person to your date. By showing that you can wait for the good things in life, this shows you have great willpower, strength of character and if you are a man, it shows respect and patience for your new date, all of which can make them even more attracted to you. People often can’t handle waiting or can’t handle the uncertainty now and with our culture slowly devolving to a rapid gratification society, this makes you stand out from the crowd.One thing to bare in mind is that your friends may say different things to what they really think, especially if they are trying to cover up how they act. A guy who is seen as macho and very gung ho might tell you that sex on the first date is the best thing, yet he might think differently if he was speaking truthfully. Keeping appearances up makes people act oddly and you may have to bare this in mind when you are making your decision.

Obviously, this is just my opinion on the subject and if you don’t agree with me, that is fine. Try going out on the date and seeing how things play out. If your date is very touchy and flirty they might want to have sex on the first date and this means that it is okay. Don’t worry too much about it and have a lot of fun on the date and if it feels right, go for it. Most people are more worried about a kiss on the first date, let alone sex. It really depends on the character of your date and how they act when they are near you. Think about it a little. If you are going out on a date with someone shy, you might want to dial down the flirting a little and give them time to relax in your presence.