Managing Expectations: How to Date Unrealistic Women
Meeting new people is an exhilarating and fun way to spend your time. In addition to making new friends and contacts, sometimes you might meet a woman who seems fantastic and charming and is exactly your type. More often than not, this woman could be all of these things to you and even more! Don’t lose this woman, for you will be very happy with her throughout the future.Unfortunately, sometimes the woman might have completely unrealistic expectations of you, from your social behavior to how you dress.Many women have their expectations altered by written and televised media that she has consumed in the past. A girl who has watched a lot of Disney films might wish for a true, Disney style prince to come and whisk her away and off of her feet. Whilst this is a little farfetched, most people think about the perfect partner and the perfect story about how you met to tell their friends.The let-down of meeting unsuitable suitors again and again can make some women start to feel that only the perfect man is enough for them. Of course, everyone has fantasies or outlines of the kind of person they would want to date, yet the people they spend the rest of their life with has none of these traits!Read on for how to handle these expectations.
The Influence of Films and Fairytales
Some women expect to be treated as if they are the royalty by their partners. Whilst this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, if you are not the kind of person who enjoys dealing with your partners every whim, it might be best to try and figure out what her expectations are before you start dating seriously.If your prospective date watches a lot of Disney films and Romantic Comedies she might expect you to pull out all the stops on every occasion whilst you date. There is nothing wrong with this but try to keep the overblown romantic gestures to when the occasion is truly important. You should try to manage expectations and ask her what she really wants and how she feels. If you both have an argument or you need to apologize and make up, you should talk the situation over with your partner rather than jumping the gun and throwing a huge party or sending her half of the florists’ inventory to her doorstep.Along with unrealistic expectations of the people she might want to date, sometimes women can have unrealistic expectations of themselves. A trope of many Disney films is the idea of love at first sight. Falling in love the moment you see someone sounds amazing… yet there are so few people that do this and the ones that claim to have fell in love instantly might just be remembering it wrong!Most of the time, people fall in love over an extended period of time. Rushing it and telling the girl that you love her when your heart isn’t really in it is a cruel thing to do.The fantasy of love at first sight is a very nice thing to believe in andI know lots of people actually believe in love at first sight and I’m not saying it certainly doesn’t happen; it’s just that initial feeling of butterflies when you meet someone new can happen at any time and in many circumstances!
Friends, Families and Hobbies
Inevitably, when you meet a good woman you will find yourself spending less time with your friends and your family, more time with her. Balancing your social time between the people in your life is difficult at the best of times, let alone when you have just met someone new and exciting!Some women have the idea that once they have met the man they are to marry, they wish to spend as much time with them as humanly possible. Obviously this is nice, a good reflection on how you make her feel, but neglecting your friends and family will lead to some serious long-term relationship problems. They say, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”Imagine when you last came back from a business trip and hadn’t seen your significant other in a while. The feelings you felt when you finally embraced her in your arms are much greater than any other day. Spending time apart is necessary for a great relationship and dating an unrealistic woman can make this very difficult.Keeping a keen interest in your hobbies, whether they are working out, running or even painting gives you something to talk about and the time apart from your partner that you might need.If your girlfriend is asking you to sacrifice some of your hobby time, you can ask her to come and join you instead of just giving up the hobby. Doing joint hobbies with your partner can be a great way to get to know people on a deeper level and having a great time together doing something you enjoy is not to be overlooked. Extra points if your hobbies keep you both physically fit!
Men love to hide their heart; the more secure the vault the better. Most guys will try and please their significant other and make them feel good over their own emotions. Whilst this self-sacrifice is well meant, dating someone who is just doing things to please you gets old quickly and can end up creating the wrong feelings. In addition to this, men like to “fix” problems and go to great lengths trying to find the answer to a posed problem. Most women don’t necessarily want their problems fixed, they just want someone to listen and perhaps give them a different perspective on their problems.You must take stock of your own feelings as well as your significant others. Dating unrealistic women makes this much more difficult because they are much more open with their feelings and their demands of what they expect from you. It can be difficult to get a good handle on how your actions affect others at the best of times, let alone whilst people are yelling about things you don’t have a clue how to do!
When you are looking for love, you must be mindful of what you are looking for and what you can offer to other people. Sometimes, the needy and unrealistic woman may be exactly who you want to be with for the rest of your life.If you are the kind of man who thrives on challenge and wishes to become the best you possibly can, dating a highly unrealistic woman could be a fantastic way to keep you motivated. If you really like the girl and she asks something difficult of you, having the unrealistic girlfriend or wife might be exactly what you need to keep you on track. Of course, some men do not wish to change for others and should probably avoid dating highly unrealistic women. Most relationships will change the participants whether they want to or not. Compromise is not to be underestimated and is the cornerstone of marriage and relationships. The unrealistic woman might even change you into a better person.