Pro Tips For Surviving A Break Up Around The Holiday Period

Surviving a break up doesn’t have to be drama and tears for you. As you emerge from the embers of a broken relationship, you have the power to go one of two ways.Most people tend to pick the wrong option, the easy option or the path of the least resistance. This means that they will cry, mope around and generally feel bad for themselves and so on until life pulls them out of it or a sufficient time period has passed. Funnily enough, this isn’t the best way to deal with anything, let alone something as earth shaking as a proper hellfire break up.A lot of people store their negative feelings in their heads, not realizing that if you don’t let out hose emotions that they are creating vitriol for further relationships in the future. These are the kinds of people who will tell you that ‘all men are the same!’ and so on. Obviously, this is probably hyperbole, but there are certainly people who think that all men really are the same. Hmm.

People often want to be asked about what is wrong with them, but never go out of their way to tell their family and friends that something is up. Whilst mind reading would be a little bit cool, nobody has developed these powers to my knowledge yet. If you have a break up at a holiday period in the year, don’t hide things until after the event. It is okay to tell people the bad along with the good and by telling them what is going on, you might be able to get over the break up sooner than you thought otherwise. Even if you can’t get any emotional support, maybe someone will offer to pitch in with the cooking and make your physical demands a little easier. Most friends and family will rally around you, helping you in any way they can and offering you as much support as they can offer.If you have broken up with the parent of your child, you don’t need to actually celebrate Christmas on Christmas. Having your celebrations on a different day then Christmas allows you to relax, not have to worry about buying the associated Christmas products in time for the day and many other benefits. You’ll spend less money, get more value for your money and also you won’t have the stress of running out of flour when no shop is open. You don’t need to celebrate the holiday to have a great time with the rest of your friends and family so don’t worry about it.

Emotions aside, everybody will understand if you need to take an hour or two to relax and deal with things. It is fine if you aren’t feeling great, but don’t think that means you can’t enjoy the time spent anyway. When everyone else is being jovial and happy around you, don’t feel like you are not allowed to be happy with them, even if you have just broken up with your partner. It is  really not the end of the world and in time you’ll realize this too. Starting a new part of your life should be exciting and interesting, not something to avoid and you always want to start off on a good footing.There are endless things to think about after you break up with someone. It’s true and you’ll have to deal with them eventually. The key thing to remember is that they don’t matter right now at this instance in time. Through all of the people I’ve talked to about this, almost everyone is worrying about what will happen in the future and is barely in the present. This means you are never going to enjoy a single day in your life if you carry on like this as ‘The Future’ demands all of your attention.Whilst trite, you should take a little inspiration from “Live Today Like It Is Your Last Day” and make sure that you do at least one small thing to make your day better. Whether that’s taking time to brew a decent cup of coffee or anything else you enjoy, make sure you make some me time.Surviving the holiday period is simply a case of making sure that you actually enjoy the time with your friends and family. After all, if you don’t, why bother going to the hassle of making all the food and so on?If taking a holiday will help you, go and do that instead of being sad and lonely. You’ll work through it if you have to, but people should be smart, not hard working. Hopefully with a little thought, you now know how you will survive the holiday season and the New Year.