The perfection of breaking up smoothly is definitely an art. Knowing exactly what to say in order to remain friends after what should be a terrible breakup is a skill to be proud of. Most break ups result in harsh feelings towards the other, usually more so on one side than the other. The reality is that in most relationships there is one side of the relationship that is head over heels in love and one side that is appeasing the other until it cannot be salvaged any longer. Even in relationships that end up in marriage initially there is one party that is more involved emotionally that the other and the uninvolved individual may develop everlasting love over time. Some people break up with someone only to completely break the persons’ heart and cause feelings of anger and frustration. Others break up with individuals to find themselves agreeing on the terms of separation and remaining friends for years to come. What can cause the different reactions? It may in fact be the pure realities of an individuals’ personality or the specific words stated to the individual being broken up with. Here are 10 quotes that may be used by perspective relationship Enders that may ease the pain of the heartbreak felt.
1st “Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” – Kahlil Gibran
Using the perspective of the well-known verbiage, “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” causes the individual being let go to save face and maintain minimal hope. In all reality the person being let go knows the relationship is over rather they admit it or not, but allowing the person to bow out gracefully is key to a successful break. You want the break to be crisp, clean, and minimally invasive. This is definitely the case when there is potential for friendship that can develop. There are individuals that like each other well enough, but are not the right fit for everlasting love. Using this particular perspective opens up the opportunity for a fortified break in order to realize if this is what you really want in a relationship or if there is something much greater for you out there. This can be a gamble, because the individual that is actually being let go may have a bad experience getting back out in the dating world causing them to run back to the relationship they may have felt safe in. Their heart may actually become fonder of what they believe they are missing.
2nd “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” – Mark Twain
Women are quite guilty of this, much more so than men. When men play the field it is acceptable, but if a woman does it she is a whore. This perception causes women to believe that it is acceptable for men to be seeing them intimately as well as other women intimately and just accepting it. Women drop everything they have going on to respond to a man’s beacon call. Personally this drives me crazy. We all have had friends that live, breath and sleep according to the phone calls they receive. The man may be married so the female on the side has to be available whenever he calls in order to keep him. She may want the feelings he causes her to feel or may on fact want the gifts and perceived knowledge that he would rather spend time with her than his wife. This is Crazy!!! If that man really wanted to attain you instead of his wife he would do what he had to in order to accomplish exactly that. There would be no excuses or statements meant to continuously string you along. There would be showable actions.
3rd “The hottest love has the coldest end.” – Socrates
We find that a relationship that may begin hot and heavy full of sexually driven passion has a flame that dies out quickly, due to the realization that there is more to a relationship than sex. Having a long lasting sustainable union involves being able to be there and spend time with the other as well as being able to take care of everyday necessities. Staying in bed all day having sex does not help to further one’s aspirations in life. If there is no respect of responsibilities and no aspirations or vision then where are you going? This becomes very important in life so being able to accept and respect one’s aspirations or the lack there of may be reason for separation. In all reality once reality sets in the hot and heavy relationship dwindles into a small flame waiting to be dowsed by the smallest amount of rain.
4th “The heart was made to be broken.” – Oscar Wilde
Some would say we are meant to live, laugh, love and repeat. Some people live with the understanding that there will be no strong ties, with an understood escape clause. Most of the time when someone is in a relationship with a person like this they know what they have gotten into and accept the challenge though they know that it will most likely be unsuccessful.
5th “Failed relationships can be described as so much wasted make-up.” – Marian Keyes, Watermelon
As people follow their hearts and love hard they also crash hard when their love is rejected. This causes much wasted makeup. A scene of running mascara ruining a perfect face of makeup is not out of the ordinary at the end of a break up scene. Why do we waste the energy and time, when usually by this point we know it has been over for quite a while.
6th “Don’t cry when the sun is gone, because the tears won’t let you see the stars.” – Violeta Para
We may see the man in our lives as the sun beaming its radiant rays on our skin, but when the illusion is gone and the sun has set and disappeared in the grass don’t cry because the beautiful stars will show themselves soon. Let the guy go and await your next beautiful adventure.
7th “No Matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.” – Faraaz Kazi
When a death occurs does the Earth stop? Do the seasons await our improved mood? No, life goes on all around us and one day our day will come as well when we will no longer be able to walk the Earth. The same is true of break ups no matter how involved you were and how this occurrence turned your life upside down. The truth is life will go on and you should try your best to enjoy every moment of it no matter how hard it may be.
8th “Love is unconditional, relationships are not.” – Grant Gudmundson
Love is said to be blind, but once in a relationship the blindness subsides somewhat because of the realities in sight. Learning that the one you love is messy, disorganized, or much worse can cause the conditions on a relationship to be tested. As long as you are living apart and seeing each other from a far, you love their dirty drawers, but when the drawers are in the middle of your bathroom floor on a daily basis this may change.
9th “I never hated a man enough to give him his diamonds back.” – Zsa Zsa Gabor
Many women allow men to run through their lives costing them nothing. When you fully give yourself to another and they rip your feet right from under you why should you allow them to keep all of your things? Your emotions are yours, your self-worth is yours, and your self-respect is yours, and it is yours to give away. Why should you give these things to another when they do not deserve them? You Shouldn’t!!!
10th “Cheating and lying aren’t struggles; they’re reasons to break up.” – Patti Callahan Henry, Between The Tides
If the relationship is built on lies and deceit then why do you keep yourself in the fight? A relationship is too much work for it to be built on constant deceit.