Tips From The Best: A Guide To Avoid Bad Dating Scenarios
Bad dates can be terrible in many different ways. Whilst you might look back on them in a few years and find them cringe worthy or funny, when you are on a bad date and you can’t find a way to escape, you won’t be laughing at the situation at all. You spend a lot of time and money to get out on this date, new clothes, practicing your witty comments and it is all for naught. Unfortunately, there’s no way to avoid bad dates without being rude. Bad dates are a shame because almost all dates could go better if both people knew a little more about dating scenarios.Some people are okay with bad dates and realize that it is part of the dating game and just accept this fact. Others, let the bad dates get to them and this undermines their confidence, leading to a string of even worse dates over time and lowering your confidence. A bitter cycle that you should get out of as soon as possible! Changing your mindset about the whole thing is the best way to get ahead in the dating game. When people experience loss, they remember it much more than a positive thing so when you think back over your dates, the bad ones stick out much more than the great ones. This is why people often say there are no good partners out there to be had anymore because all of their dates they remember were substandard.
Dating IS Difficult
Nightmare dates happen and great dates happen. As I already said, you have got to realize that there are going to be many more bad dates than good dates over your dating career. The chances of you finding the right person on a date is very low and the more you are picky and dismiss prospects that chance gets even smaller. Some people don’t like smokers and will never date a smoker because of this and that means that a large percentage of people are off the list of applicable dates. This gets worse as you add even more criteria and it isn’t uncommon to see people listing 10-30 qualities that they want their dates to have on their online dating profiles. If you are one of these people, think about what these lists of traits that you want says about you. In addition to this, even if this person who is looking at your profile does past your acid test, they might not like you because you don’t match their high expectations.Dating is difficult because finding the right person means knowing what the right person is like. If you know what the right person is like, you probably already know the right person. Therefore, you might be looking for the wrong things in a partner.Whilst changing your expectations so that you can realize that there’s no such thing as the perfect partner to begin with, don’t make it so you settle on the first person you date. Many people hate being ‘single’, yet they don’t realize how enjoyable some dates can be and the journey of trying to find someone who you get along with shouldn’t be rushed. When you rush these kinds of things, you end up with someone you are not happy with, which can ruin your relationship somewhere down the line, taking you back to square one. Many people that go on bad dates are not ready for dating and this will show in their body language. Perhaps they are still battling with different parts of their personality or have recently broken up with their ex partner and still have feelings for them. Either way, before entering a relationship, you need to make sure that you feel 100% ready for a relationship and that you know you’ll be okay on your own. A relationship is based on the sum of its parts and if two broken pieces start to form a bond, there will always be problems in the relationship that follows.Try changing your beliefs about what you want in a relationship and you might find that some of the people that you are going out with on dates suddenly become more appealing. Relaxing even just one criteria from your list will introduce you to many people that you may not have associated with before and because of this, you might meet someone who does meet all of your remaining criteria through their friends and so on. The diversity of people is such that every one is so different; it seems silly to reject someone just because of something they do that you don’t think is a good idea. Expand your mind and see what is out there before giving up on dating.