If you have been lucky enough to not experience the loss of a relationship you are one of very few. Most of us will go through many relationships before we find “the one”that we want to continue with for the rest of our lives. If you have recently broke up with your girlfriend and realized too late that she was the one for you, you may be wondering “what do I do to get my ex back?”It is not easy to get back a relationship once it is broken, nor is it always possible. There are times when the damage done is irreparable. Other times, the reasons why you broke up can be silly, but unless you are willing to put your pride away and to say you are sorry, you could end up losing her forever. It’s bad enough to lose someone for good reasons, but for stupid ones, that just hardly seems worth it.
What did you break up over, is key to know “what do I do to get my ex back”?
When you are in a relationship with someone it is natural to disagree at times. You aren’t always going to get along. Making matters worse, once the lovey-dovey part of the relationship wears off, it is easier to start taking one another for granted, and be nastier than you need to be. After a while, those nasty times start to add up and lead to a perpetual state of unhappiness. If you thought that you would be happier without her, but now that she is gone and the reality has set in, you can’t, it is time to get her back.What you will need to do to get her back depends on what you did to lose her. If it was some silly fight, you need to stop being stubborn and just apologize for what you did. That does not necessarily mean that you have to take blame, or even say that she was “faultless”, that just means that you have to take responsibility for your part in all of it. That isn’t so hard to do, is it? Would you rather be “right”, or would you rather be happy? The choice is yours. Find a way to apologize that you can feel good about. Phrase it just right so that y ou can still feel as if you didn’t cave, but get her back, or you will forever be wishing you had just let go of it.
Is it better to be right or to be happy?
There are studies to suggest that people are happier when they are right. Those studies didn’t take into account that being right is going to involve you being alone. I am sure you can find someone else who is willing to think you are right all the time, but you know that is what you love about your girlfriend. She doesn’t take your shit and she challenges you. There are plenty of other girls out there who will let you be right all the time, but they won’t make you a better person.Could it be that the true reason you are mad at her is because she is right? If she has called you out about something that you already feel insecure about, something that you know she is right about, it probably made you feel stupid. Is that her fault, or is that yours? Instead of focusing on how she made you feel stupid, maybe you should focus on the fact that no matter what it is that you did that makes you feel stupid, she is the only one who will love you in spite of it. It is rare when we find someone who knows how ridiculous we can be, or how many faults that we have, and love us not in spite of them, but because of them. Even if she was right, you know that whatever it is that you are feeling silly about, she is going to love you unconditionally.
Finding the “one” is something people can spend a lifetime never doing
If you are one of the few who has been lucky enough to find the one, the true mate of your world, what are you doing letting her go over something stupid as a disagreement? It is time to put your pride aside and just tell her you are sorry. If you don’t do it now, you could risk losing her forever. The next girl may not see your faults, or point them out, but that does not mean she will ever love you half as much as your ex-girlfriend did, or even still does. The only way you will ever know if she does is if you go now and try to get her back for good.