Almost every relationship has had troubles over the course of the relationship. I can say this with relative certainty because even if you and your partner are perfect for one another, the force of personality against another means that there will always be a disagreement. Whether that’s from a difference of opinion, feelings or anything else, it is inevitable that you’ll end up having fights.Those who are married and spend a lot of time together are likely to disagree on a lot more things, as there is more time for things to occur. Whilst lots of fighting is bad, no fights at all means that both people’s emotions are being repressed and this can lead to aggressive feelings being pushed down. People who do this a lot tend to suffer mental health problems and are likely to explode in rage in the future. You don’t want this to happen!
When you are in a relationship means that you will both have to do some compromising. Being your own person is great but when you have to live together and do things together, there are any number of things that can trip a budding couple up. Fixing these little fights and tiffs is usually pretty easy and it’ll be simple to fix these problems for the majority of couples.If you pay attention to your partners’ lifestyle and learn why they do the things they do, you can learn about about them. Thinking internally, find the things that annoy you about what they do and think whether your reaction is really necessary. Communication is great, assuming you do it correctly.Communication is two-way, meaning you can’t just dominate the conversation and get mad at your partner without allowing them a change to explain why they act that way. Some problems will never go away because of people’s personalities. In this case, you have to decide whether the relationship is worth accepting the fault that you see in order to continue, especially if it is a major issue like drug taking etc.
When it is something less important, you can always choose to change yourself and this can fix a lot of things in a relationship. Analyzing your own personality for faults is painful and changing your habits is harder still. The benefits are a much better relationship in the long run and if you are good at working on yourself, you’ll figure out the worst things about yourself and change them willingly.Other people rarely change because someone asks them nicely and changing yourself to not care about the things that annoy you isn’t too difficult. The decision that needs to be made is whether or not you want to change for this person.
Good communication and talking about your issues can stop an argument or fight in its tracks before it ever gets to fever pitch. Many couples schedule a time of the week to talk about whatever might be stopping them from being happy. Implementing this tactic allows you both to talk candidly about the relationship and can be very useful in a relationship, especially if both of you are more introverted than extroverted.Fights are a hard thing to predict when you don’t talk with your partner properly and things often trigger fights. Finding these triggers and working to avoid them will avoid the majority of unnecessary fights. If your partner hates it when the bathroom isn’t clean, make sure you clean up the bathroom!It seems so obvious when you read it out loud but sacrificing just 20 minutes of your day to work on the stuff that your partner doesn’t like means you’ll save hours of fighting and sadness. Investing in your relationship rather than pulling away from it is the only way you’ll make progress and keep a nice, long-term and stable relationship.