It is alright if every once in a while your guy gets so excited that he simply can’t wait for you to finish, but if it is a common occurrence it can lead to frustration. Not getting the satisfaction that you need in your sexual relationship can lead you to feel used and as if your needs aren’t being met. In most cases, men don’t mean not to please you, they just don’t have the control that it takes to delay their orgasm. It is often just a matter of experience and retraining. Instead of getting upset, angry, or giving him his walking papers, take the time to help him work on lasting longer in bed. The good news is that reteaching him isn’t punishing, it can actually be very fun.There are many reasons why a guy has problems with premature ejaculation. Guys learn to orgasm in silence, and usually try to get it done as quickly as possible. When younger, they just want to get the job done before they are found out by someone in the house. That leads to a goal oriented orgasm that has nothing to do really with the pleasure of getting there. The way to get your guy to last longer is to retain his body into recognizing that getting there is half the fun. Using simple techniques, and patience, you two can have him lasting longer in bed and making sure you get your job done too.
Communication is important
If you are not saying anything about your frustration, the first place to start is to have a conversation with him. Talking about the problem of premature ejaculation can be a very touchy subject. Before you even broach the conversation make sure to practice non-confrontational ways to bring it up. Using a light hearted approach, perhaps even a little humor, will catch him before he has time to put his guard up. Once it is out in the open, you both can come up with ways to solve it.
Change the moves of his groove
If you want him to last longer, once you feel him really getting into it, change the motion. You can almost always feel when a guy is getting close to orgasm. There are changes that begin in his body. He starts to breathe more rapidly and his heart rate rises. If you think that he is close, either slow down what is going on, or change the motion. You can always change the sexual position all together. What that will do is restart the orgasm phase for him and give you a little more time to get yours.
Give it a little squeeze
Before he is about to orgasm take your index finger and thumb and apply a little light pressure to the base of the penis. By giving it just a little squeeze you are able to delay orgasm just a little longer. Don’t go at it too hard or you can end up hurting him. The penis is a very sensitive organ without being stimulated. During sex, there is an even more heightened sensation. If you go at it too hard, you can risk ruining the entire sexual episode.
The balls are the key
The balls are where the action happens. If before they are about to cum you pull back on the balls slightly, you can delay his orgasm. Just a little pull away from the body can give you enough time for satisfaction. Again, the testicles are very sensitive creatures and since they have the potential to give you children, you have to respect and handle them with care.
If you need to take a time out
Before he is about to finish, you can stop all together. If you stop what you are doing and give him time to cool down, he can spend the time productively doing what it takes to get you there. Sex is about a give and take. Take the time to let him give you what you need. Since orgasm for most women may not revolve around traditional intercourse, I am sure you two can come up with a way for him to please you in the interim while he is “cooling off”.It is possible to change the way that a guy lasts in bed. The behaviors that they learn early on may not be conducive to your satisfaction, but with your help, they are correctible. With a little patience and time, you can get your guy to last longer and be a real sexual dynamo in bed. Almost all guys have the ability to last longer, you just have to show them the way.