We have all been there. Sex seemed like a great idea. You were both ready and willing, in fact, you may have waited a while until it was right, but it just got weird. Why does sex get weird? There are all sorts of reasons that the best of sexual encounters can pass into the weird zone. You may see it coming, or not see it coming your way at all. Suddenly something is said, or done, that changes it all. There you are totally naked with this guy, and you just want to shut it down, grab your clothes and head out the door. For anyone who has been in that situation, you know that that just isn’t possible. There needs to be some decorum that doesn’t involve just jumping ship and running. When sex gets weird, there are some things that you can do to make it a little less so. If nothing else, they will give enough of a distraction to run for the hills.What you should do if it goes in the direction of weird?
Politely find a way to say that wasn’t what you were thinking
There are ways to make a situation less weird. If you over react or show extreme disgust, you are going to make a bad situation become horrible. Before you react to whatever is being said, or done, think rationally about whether it is as big a deal as you think. Taking the time to cool down before you say or do anything is important, especially if there is a chance you can really hurt the other with the things you say. We all have different sexual likes and dislikes. If your partner has done or suggested something that is outside the realm of what you expected, they didn’t do so to offend you. They most likely did so because they felt comfortable enough to share how they really feel. If they did that the last thing you want to do is to make them feel worse. They will get the idea that you aren’t comfortable by the way that you react, you don’t have to go overboard to get your idea across.
Stop what is going on
If you aren’t comfortable with what is going on in your sex then you have the right to say no and stop what is going on. Often times even if things get weird we are prone to ride it out. It is an uncomfortable feeling when you have to put a stop to sex, but going along with it makes you feel even worse in the end. If you don’t want to go down a certain route, it is okay to voice your opinion. Stop where it is headed and try to move it back to comfort zone territory. They may have gotten the wrong messages from you as well about where things were going.
Communicate your feelings
If something is making you feel weird out, you have the right to say so. It is alright to say to your partner that you just aren’t comfortable with something. If you don’t say anything, you are both going to be left with a bad feeling about it. That may start to put some distance between you in a relationship. The reasons why it went bad are worth discussing. If you are mature enough to have sex, you should be mature enough to discuss why things weren’t right for you. If you don’t get it all out in the open, it is probably going to happen again. If you talk frankly and openly about how you feel, you can both come to a conclusion about the whole incident and avoid it from happening again. If it was enough that you aren’t sure you want to continue the relationship, that is something that you should convey to your partner as well. You should let them know why you are leaving the relationship, not leave them guessing what went wrong.
Realize that you are different people
Everyone will have different likes and dislikes. Sex is something intimate and can be something uncomfortable. Finding a way for both of you to get the most pleasure out of it, involves knowing that what is normal for one person may not be for another. If something isn’t what you want to do, that doesn’t mean that the relationship won’t last, it just means that you may have to find a way to pleasure each other in different ways. If you can get past the weirdness, you can have one of the best relationships that is able to withstand far more than a weird sexual experience. Just try to be understanding and to work through it with words instead of responsive actions. Sex is going to get weird every once in a while, it is a very exposing and vulnerable thing.