Look around the Internet and you’ll see hundreds of sites advertising ways that you can get your ex back in a tiny number of days. Whilst you could get your ex back in a couple of days, depending on the break up scenario, would you really want them back that soon?Especially if you were the one to instigate the break up, do you really think that your ex will have changed enough and figured out what the problem in the relationship was in a few days?My guess is that they will not have realized the problems in the relationship by this point. This is one of the reasons that I never recommend trying to get your ex back really quickly. You’ll just end up repeating all the arguments and bad times in the relationship, probably leading to another, final break up. Whilst you’ll be pining for your ex because you are so used to spending time with them, try to get them to realize why you had broken up.At the time of the break up, most people are so strung up in their emotions, they don’t communicate or react with any reason. This means that most of the time, from as soon as you hear the “I think we should break up.” words, you end up not hearing why you need to break up.
Before you do get back with your ex, you need to make sure that you communicate with them to find out the problems in the relationship and what you can do to make it better next time. This can often be hard as getting to a place where you can communicate freely with your and getting them to agree to meeting you might be difficult. If this is the case, I often tell people to write them a letter telling them how you feel and what you think can be done to save the relationship. This is obviously a great way to do it as you can write the letter saying exactly what you want to and there’s no one there to make your conversation go off in to a rant about something else.Writing a letter in this day and age is seen as something very personal and special, so you can be sure that they will open it, especially if you deliver it by hard rather than putting it through the postal system. Most of the time, once and ex receives your letter and has thought it over, they’ll want to come and meet you to discuss the rest of the relationship.To get your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back quickly, send them a letter a few days after the breakup and start working on improving your physical appearance and your mental attractiveness. Different people are attracted to different things, but there is no one on earth who doesn’t appreciate when someone has been working out. In addition to making you more confident and attractive to your ex, you’ll get to keep the attractiveness and the confidence even if you don’t get your ex back.Once you meet up with them, make sure you discuss what you went to discuss and keep the conversation light until you are talking about getting back together. It might take a few meetings to figure out the problems in the relationship and sort them out, but this is time well spent if it means you get your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back in your arms.If you do find a problem, try to think of the best ways you and your ex can solve it. If it is a personal problem, then you can work on it in your own time, if it is monetary, there are many ways you can make a little more money.Whilst most people think that problems are insurmountable and you’ll never be able to fix them, the huge amount of people married for over 20 years shows that this just isn’t true. Hopefully once you and your ex are back together, you can show the rest o the world how easy it is to be in a good, loving relationship with someone you really care about.If you get back with your ex, this is where the true work begins. Keep on improving yourself and supporting your partner to get better as well. This will make it more likely that they too try to make themselves better, which ends up spiraling in to a very happy life for the both of you. If you are both getting better at life, neither of you will feel like you are just carrying the other person through life on your merit, keeping you both happier. Good luck in getting your ex back in to your life, I hope it works!