I Want My Ex Girlfriend Back!
What Are You Going To Do To Make Sure You Get Them Back?
The standard advice to get your ex back always starts with essentially ignoring them for a while. This allows both of you the time you need to get your head straight and start to untangle your emotions from your decisions and rash actions. When people are emotional, they react to the world rather than acting upon the world and this is a very key difference. Something I always tell people when they ask me about getting their lover back is to write down how they feel from day to day and write down anything else that is bothering them over and over. This way, when they get over whatever it is that is causing them anguish, they can use this to get back on the right track again sometime in the future.Devote your new found time to improving yourself so that when you are back with your girlfriend she will think you are a new person, worthy of her attention and time.There are a number of ways you can do this. Take a short course in meditation and mindfulness, join the gym and start writing, painting or something else creative. Creativity is the best way to mend your heart’s ailments as it helps you express how you are feeling in a way that is cathartic and releases any negative emotion that has built up over the course of the relationship.Whilst we do recommend that you don’t go out of your way to try to communicate with your ex whilst you are getting yourself back together, don’t actively avoid them. Quite often, your ex might call you and ask to get back together anyway!Whilst you might want to jump straight back in to getting together with your ex, you might actually want to give it a few weeks. Letting both of your head’s clear is important as you might only remember the good parts of the relationship, meaning you forget about the rubbish times over the course of the relationship and endanger the whole relationship again. If you don’t solve whatever the problem was in the relationship, you won’t be getting anywhere in the long run with your ex.Making sure that you both want to be together and are not just doing it because of inertia means that you need to take your time. Rushing isn’t ever a great plan, take it slow and see how things play out. You might think that you really want your ex back when really you just want to date. The feeling of loss is only there because of how your brain works, reacting to it is what your heart would do, not your brain. Getting her back means showing her a better version of the person you already are. If you have to change yourself to huge amounts, you are just pretending to be a chameleon, a shape shifter. This will cause cognitive dissonance and it is obvious when people are putting on behavior, rather than acting like that naturally.