Movie Sex vs. Real Life: 5 Big Reasons Why Your Love Life is Better!
It’s natural to feel a little inadequate when you’re constantly invited to compare your bedroom life to Hollywood romance flicks and pornography. But you don’t have a team of choreographers and makeup artists on call, you aren’t in perfect lighting and someone isn’t standing near you holding a microphone over your head. We’re here to remind you why your love life is way better than that.
1. Yours is Real!
This is really what the whole thing boils down to. Hollywood actors and actresses might be very convincing, but that’s what they’re paid big bucks for. The chemistry that they show on the screen is an illusion – it’s fake. They have no connection with each other. And on top of that, their every move is scrutinized to make sure it has the absolute most impact on you, the viewer. They are positioned perfectly, they have lighting effects to showcase their best assets and disguise their worst, and they have a team of experts on hand to make sure it all looks perfect. But reality isn’t perfect. Sex is natural and fun and healthy, but it’s very rarely perfect. It’s hot and sweaty and sometimes weird noises happen or someone gets a leg cramp and has to stop. But that is not what Hollywood wants to show you, so that’s not what you see. The same goes for pornography shoots – all the natural awkward happenings are conveniently edited out for your viewing pleasure.Actors and actresses, both in Hollywood films and adult films, are also judged heavily on their appearance, so the people you see on the screen are usually eerily flawless. Because of the nature of the work they do, they spend more time than the average person on exercise, beauty treatments, hair removal and so on. Then they are plastered in makeup, and retouched in post-production. The end result is unrealistic. Having sex with someone who is inhumanly perfect would surely be confidence-sapping for a normal person, and spending the entire encounter being nervous and self-conscious is not particularly sexy!
2. You don’t get interrupted every five minutes!
Film actors are not actually “doing it” so this applies a little less to them, although they are definitely interrupted a lot – but in pornography, the actors and actresses are constantly being stopped, given guidance on what the director wants to see, and sent back to start again. What you see as a 20 minute seamless sex scene probably took those poor people three hours of stopping and starting, adjustment and criticism to complete.
3. Your boss isn’t watching!
Anyone paid to have (or simulate having) sex on film is a tough professional who can handle being surrounded by ten or fifteen other people while they’re doing their thing. But in the real world, this translates to you and your partner trying to enjoy yourselves in the bedroom while your manager and all your co-workers stand around your bed. Half of them are quietly offering whispered suggestions for how you could do it better, and half of them are looking extremely bored and waiting for you to finish. And what’s worse, your pay at the end of the month depends on your performance while you’re being scrutinized by the people you only partly know.
4. You have spontaneity!
In real life, you and your partner can choose to have sex wherever and whenever you like – if you don’t feel like it that evening, no one is forcing you. If you both decide you’re feeling lazy and want to stay under the covers with the lights off, then you can do exactly what you want and nothing more or less. Movie sex is not like that. If the actors and actresses in pornography, TV programs or films aren’t in the mood, they either have to fake it, or they don’t get paid that day. Their wants and desires have no bearing on what they actually do, because it’s their job. If the director says “Stop,” then they stop, and if the director says “Do that again but differently” then they do. There is no romance and no free will in movie sex.Every interaction in a Hollywood movie is scripted, so the lines they say to each other are perfect and are designed to invoke a specific reaction from the viewer – while it may sound romantic and lovely, or sexy and spontaneous, it is an illusion. It is pre-packaged and repeated by an actor on cue, which is the exact opposite of romantic and spontaneous, despite the words they are actually saying.Pornography is the worst offender for cheesy, scripted lines. There’s nothing natural about being overcome with lust for the pizza delivery man and his extra-large pepperoni. There is nothing spontaneous about the perfectly timed position changes, almost mechanically moving from one carefully-arranged angle to another for the best viewing impact. Real life sex might not appear to be quite so wild and free, since it’s not always on the coffee table or the kitchen counter or by a pool, but it really is 100% more spontaneous and fun than the wooden scripted “acting” in any porn film.
5. You’re with someone you love and care about!
Alright, maybe not every time – you could have met someone in a bar that evening, clicked, and all of a sudden you found yourselves in bed. But even then, you chose the person you’re with and you found something about them attractive enough to want to have sex. In pornography, the actor and actress may have only met that morning, or they may have worked together before and decided they really quite hate each other. They have no connection and they have no intimacy, where your real sex life has these things in abundance. The actresses in pornography are faking any emotion or enjoyment that they are showing, the actors are usually using some kind of male enhancement to keep going for the long hours demanded of them, and at the crux of it all, everyone involved is there solely for the money that they are earning. It’s a job to them.
Hollywood actors and actresses are not quite in the same league as this, as they don’t have to actually have sex, but they still have to fake being intimate with another person that they don’t have any emotional ties to, and often when they are both married to other people who they DO care about and who is not the person that they are currently with. Then, when their scripted sex scene is over, and the cameras are off, they have to go back to pretending they didn’t just see each other’s naughty bits while they eat lunch together and discuss the next part of the script.So, unless you want your own sex life to feel like a chore that you have to do in order to get paid, to be with people you don’t care about in the slightest, and to be at the whims of a director who hovers over you the entire time – be thankful the sex you’re having is nothing like pornography or Hollywood films!