There are many differences between men and women. One of the biggest is the way that they view romanticism. Guys have a very different idea about what being romantic means than do girls. Often times they haven’t a clue about what it is to be romantic at all. Spare candy, flowers, and chick flicks, romanticism is something that only women get. Being romantic isn’t about buying things for women, it is about consideration. Yes, that is right, consideration. Romantic moves are those which take thought and show a woman that you are thinking about her and that you love her. Romantic gestures are really just those that show you are putting her needs first.If you are having a hard time thinking of ways to be romantic to win her over, you are thinking too hard. Often times guys think that being romantic has to be over the top, or something that is cliche. Being romantic is only done best when it is highly specialized for the woman you are trying to impress. Since it involves thinking about the special woman in your life, it is going to be different for every girl you date. The key to being romantic is knowing what she values and what is important to her. If you want to get into her heart, first you have to know what she is about, and what she finds important in her life.Where most guys go wrong, when doing something that they think is romantic, is that they try to do something grandiose. They think that if they have a plane write letters in the sky, that will wow her. They think that they have to schedule a balloon ride to show how much they love her. The fact is that it is in the small things that a guy does that is most romantic to a woman. You don’t have to write her a poem, just a note that says “you’re beautiful”. It isn’t in the big wow, but the thought that romantic is found.
If you want to wow your woman try these romantic ideas…
Set a table for two at your home
Instead of taking her to an expensive restaurant, why not make her dinner at home? If you are worried about not being able to cook, don’t be. It isn’t about the meal as much as the preparation of it. Spending time making dinner is what it is all about. Find out what her favorite things to eat are, and look up a recipe. Knowing that you are doing something for her that is outside of your comfort zone, finding things she likes, and going out of your way to put in your time and energy, is what being romantic is about. Even if it is the worst tasting thing in the world, it is much more considerate than simply paying a bill for someone else to do it.
Get her a gift that proves you have been listening
The problem that most girls have with guys is that we feel as if they never listen to us. Yes, we know it is hard to hear everything we have to say. Guys are not “talkers”by nature, but if you want to be romantic, prove you have been listening. If she talks about a place that her dad used to take her, or something that is sentimental to her, show her that you care about her feelings. Take her to that fishing place she used to go when she was little. If she told you about a gift she didn’t get when she was a child, get it for her. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that things she talks about are just talk. If she says something to you it is because it is important to her. If you want to be romantic, think about the things she talks about that are important to her and act on them. She will fall in love with you the minute she opens up the gift she didn’t get for Christmas when she was 10. She’ll do so, not because she will be so thrilled about getting the gift, but because you listened to her. Being romantic is about listening to her and caring enough to jump through hoops to make her happy.If you want to be romantic you have to think about what makes her happy. Putting the effort in to thinking about what she wants is often times more difficult than just giving her flowers. Women don’t come right out and tell you what they want. Often times they make silent suggestions that, if you listen to closely enough, you can accommodate. It is in the small details where love is found. Being romantic is about being considerate enough to take the time to listen and consider.