Splitting up is a devastating thing that in most cases leaves many with spinning minds. It is such a heart wrenching ordeal for one to go through. Moving on and with the right objective becomes the best therapy for the broken heart. This is a war; it is not a walk in the park. You have to battle with a heart break, plan on how to move on and at the same time keeping off your past relationship. The worst mistake many do is entertaining a thought that all is not lost and holding on to a false hope that things will get back on track.
Your heart has suffered enough and the breakup itself is such a tearing force, you don’t need to clinch on to falsehood hope that you will get along later. This will hurt deeper when you realize he or she is not regretting a penny having split up with you. Realizing that he or she has moved on is like a double rejection sword cutting across your heart. The most important thing to do on the news of a breakup is to accept the reality on ground and start working from there. Take it easy, after all more promising relationships have ended badly compared to yours. Don’t dwell so much on it by being in an extensive mourning mood for the lost promises you had between you two.When you spend a lot of energy and time feeling sorry for yourself for the loss, you are doing much injustice to yourself as it might not be your fault. Remember there is no good feeling about saying goodbye neither is there a special feeling about a breakup, yours is just like the others around. Life goes on after a break up so dust yourself and get over him or her and be more determined and proactive in the next relationship. Embrace a lot of patience during the healing time. The feeling of betrayal and hatred towards him or her will consume you if you revisit the matter more often. Trying to control yourself and be the best friend to yourself will help some more. Take this time to focus on yourself and you will find it is an easy way to recollect and forget about your ex.It is time to block your ex on facebook, defriend him and loose any form of connection between you and him on social sites. This is a way or getting over your previous relationship. You won’t help the matter if you keep on fantasizing about the memories of the good times you had together if you still can see his or her newsfeed. You need this time to have a clear break from your previous relationship emotionally. You have no business with his or her new photos probably with the new catch and such kind of things. It will hurt you less if you don’t know how your ex is doing or who he/she is seeing lately. If you keep him as friend on the social sites, he will never get off your mind and you will never start thinking straight about the next course of action that needs to be taken. There is a reason as to why you two broke up, however splitting up sucks. It is time to block your ex, it will take a little time and you will have come to terms with the fact that you can no longer be together. You can be friends at this time and there will be no hard feeling, after all, the two of you have moved on and things are working out for either side.Completely bury your ex! You will most likely be tempted to drop him or her mail when you go back to your archives and see the good texts you have saved from the last valentine date. When alone in the house you will seek consolation from the photo album and there are the photos of the last date you had before the breakup. This may be so simple but it tells a great deal about the emotional attachment to your split relationship. To avoid such temptations, bury everything about your ex that will remind you of him or her. Temptations to reach out on your ex come often when one is tipsy. I will tell you that he or she doesn’t deserve you and that is why the two of you went your separate ways. If you never had his or her number, how would you text when you are tipsy. You need to challenge the challenge by pressing control delete from your phone book, emails and such kind of channels of communication. It is an old idea to burn all his or her photos and the love letters she wrote you in the sweet damn days. Make as many changes about your hardware in the house and this will help you out of such memories and build new memories.
The next move will be to establish new relationships with other people and create new friends. Naturally you realize that when someone is in love, he or she tends to pull off from the family and childhood friends. It is time you get your mind thinking straight and renew those attachments with your own blood. This is the time you realize the attachment you previously had and the kind of love you felt, how comfortable and stable it is. These people will encourage you and help you stand on your feet. At the same time you need to learn all the new things you have always wanted to but you never had time to do so. Keep yourself occupied all the time with mind jogging activities. You can now cultivate lots of concentration power in spending the time you used to go for walks with him or her in learning new things. Do your favorite sport and join the health clubs. This helps you build both your physical body and the ego that suffered a lot during the breakup period. You will come out more confident to meet new people who deserve you and it will definitely work out.Do not get back to the dating scene so fast. Wait until the confidence builds in you again and you are good to go. Let it be gradual starting from new friends and the feeling of attraction will come naturally and gradually you will be back to the dating scene. Your motivation needs to be so high and pegged on positive revenge. This time round your revenge is being successful in the new relationship. The sweetest feeling is having succeeded in life and socially and bumping into your ex. Remember you are the master of your fate and destiny, the driver of that car, your life. Pick up the pieces owing to the fact that you can always overcome a break up by healing fast and shaping your destiny in dating as fast.By following these tips, you can easily overcome the pain of your broken relationship and can even start finding a new companion for your future life. Keep yourself motivated, happy and dedicated to do whatever you want irrespective of the bad experiences and consequences.